Appreciate your insecurities

After an interesting week, of both good and bad news, I was musing about how some of don’t appreciate our natural beauty enough. Let me start with myself. I can’t go out without eyeliner some eyeshadow and lipstick, to me, that is minimal makeup. But I realised that each night when I take off my makeup I fall in love with myself again. I always ask myself why do I need to cover this up?

Am I not enough for my own self? And the answer should be that I am enough. I love my face and my eyes and lips and use my makeup to accentuate or highlight those features. But what is unhealthy is how I can’t go out without them. And many times I do have months that I go eyeliner free or lipstick free and they are so liberating! I get to appreciate my natural self a bit more. appreciate the natural lip colour that I have and also how everything fits perfectly together.

And I know many of us are like that, especially us women. Why are we afraid of our natural face? What is the worse that can happen? We may not look as “awake” as we should but by drinking plenty of water, keeping refreshed with fruits and vegetables will help that. We may have acne and there are also many natural remedies to help with those. My point is, what we are insecure about is what another person is praying for. And all we need to do is zoom in a bit under a microscope and love ourselves.

So, I challenge you this week to love that side of you that you always cover up. Accept what it is but also accept that it doesn’t define you. You are beautiful and special and that all shows from within, not because of some spots.

 

 

Being a father

I stepped into ShopRite in Jabi Lake Mall, Abuja (the Federal Capital of Nigeria) with a t-shirt, jeans and sneakers. So it was expected that as a young guy, I will be looking for anything apart from what I was about to ask the Mall Attendant.
‘Please, where can I get babies diapers?’ he gave me a quizzical look and replied, ‘second to the last aisle, turn right’. I rolled the largest trolley towards that direction and when I reached there, I was lost as to which size was the one for a newborn baby. So I asked the Mall Security Guard that was standing closeby if he could help me call a female Mall Attendant to help me.
When she came, I inquired of her as to which of the sizes of diapers I’m supposed to buy for a newborn baby. She smiled and told me to get the MINI. So I quickly put 2 large Huggies Mini Diapers into my trolley while I asked her of where I could get Cusson’s Baby’s Care Kit and after a brief advice from her, I got 2 medium size kits. While my role as a perfect father was going on smoothly, ‘she’ called me requesting I send pictures of the products I was buying as well as tell her the prices. One could only wonder what was going on in the attendant’s mind. Who knows? Maybe she didn’t even care. But nonetheless, it was amazing. I thanked her and navigated my way as I bought everything I needed to buy.
As I stepped out of the Babies Section, a group of eyes wandered my direction and all I could do was behave as this I was oblivious to them. Actually, it’s weird for a young man to come buy strictly babies things only but guess there’s a first time for everything. Okay, to be honest, I enjoyed every moment of it. Lool.
After I paid, I found out that I needed to get a larger bag that’ll be able to accommodate all I had just bought. As I got it and stepped out of the Mall, up to where I boarded a taxi, I was given ‘the look’ and then it struck me that I had just been a father for a few moments.
Twas at the instant that I called my cousin who by the way gave birth to a pretty baby girl yesterday and told her my experience and we both shared a laugh.
The introduction of this story was saved for the last. My cousin told me to help her get some things from ShopRite for her soon-to-come baby since I was not in town hence I was given the opportunity to live as a father but for a few minutes and I enjoyed it.
A lot of things ran through my mind as I look forward to the day I’ll be a father.
This is my tale and an enjoyable one for me.
Thank you for taking out time to read this.

©Chukwudi Isaac

IN THE HERE AND NOW

IN THE HERE AND NOW
Many of us abide in the past
And in the future, get lost
Sometimes we forget there is a ‘here’
A ‘now’ that we live in here
So why go back and forth
And in the end, lose forte,
Of either battling the past
Or running to the future too fast?
In the here and now
We can grow in what we know;
In character and attitude
Like understanding gratitude,
In the here and now, there lies
The truth that indeed time flies;
Therefore be wise in spending time
As you live, while death tarries,
In the here and now
Enjoy your time with everyone;
With family and friends
With relatives and siblings;
Don’t go chasing fleeting things
And in the end, realize they are vanity,
When you lay on your dying bed
But a ‘goodbye’, no one is nigh to you to bid;
So make each second count
And spread love like a fount
It’s a new day; make the most use of it
Live simply and simple live… That’s it…

© Chukwudi Isaac

Attitude

While I was reading a devotion, I came across something that made me think. It said:

Did you know that your level of gratitude could have a direct effect on your attitude? What are you thankful for?

Some people are like thermometers; always alerting us when things aren’t right, and constantly a victim to the “temperature” in the room … which is never perfect. But others are more like thermostats. These people determine the temperature in the room. Their words, actions, and even their thoughts set the atmosphere. Which one are you?

Am I a thermometer? have I been one in the past? how grateful am I for what I have? you can imagine the number of questions that came to my mind. I then realised how we take so many things for granted and don’t realise how we affect others and how our perception of the world can be tainted through ingratitude.

Yes, we’ve all been through difficulties and storms but, we are still here!

In this month of appreciation April, I would like to appreciate those who are thermostats in our lives and add to it in wonderful ways. Not only do they boost and add light to us, but they also remind us of the good in this world. Such people are precious and rare.

I will leave you with the exact questions above. If you are a thermometer, maybe look for ways to change that or understand what triggers that side of you. We are not perfect but, that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t become the best versions of ourselves.

Thank you.