The Mystery of Gratitude in the marital journey.



  1. the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.

Gratitude is important in our christian lives, especially towards God. It is a way we show and tell GOD that we are grateful for the wonders he has done and what he is yet to do in our lives. 

Hebrews 11:1 New International Version (NIV)

Faith in Action

11 Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.

Gratitude is acknowledging this and thanking God for what he has done and what he is yet to do. This opens doors of favour upon our lives. 

This does not only work with God but also with our partners. 

We can praise our partner when we see their efforts in an area they are willing to improve on. An example can be, the guy might have challenges when it comes to his anger. As a woman , you could speak into his life and say

“Sweetie, I know you are dealing with this area, and I know that deep inside of you, you are a peaceful man. One that is not easily angered by things around him. I trust God to help you with your anger so that his love will overflow in your life.”

Or for our brothers, you might see that your woman is insecure about her looks , and you can say “Honey, I know that you are worried about how you look and your weight, but I am here to support you and help you love yourself for the woman you are. I trust God to reflect the love he has for you through me. I know with baby steps, you will not only see yourself through my eyes but, you will fall in love with how God sees you.”

These are just some examples…. 

And I am sure God definitely says that to all of us each day. He sees where we are and where we will be. It is left for us to thank him for the now , especially in our martial journey because the future is brighter because the relationship is centred around God. 

1 Corinthians 2:9 New King James Version (NKJV)

But as it is written:

“Eye has not seen, nor ear heard,
Nor have entered into the heart of man
The things which God has prepared for those who love Him.”

He knows everything to do with your journey. Some of us, can’t see beyond tomorrow. 

In today’s teaching I will be looking at the importance of Gratitude in one’s marital journey. 

Thanksgiving and praise bring down God’s favour. Who doesn’t want favour upon their lives? let alone, in their dating, courtship and marriage? But all this won’t be possible until you let God be at the centre of your life and your relationship. A man will not be able to see what is in front of him unless his eyes are open and he is following a guide. Is GOD at the centre of the relationship? is the leading or are you the one leading?

When you see God as the cake to your life and everything as the icing, then only will you be able to see his goodness upon your life.

How does this relate to marital journey? 

the Marital journey itself will not be easy. It just won’t. So many things are going to be fighting against us in so many ways. But through God and in God, there is victory. 

Also, let us also remember that the key is service. Serving God and others. So as much as you should be grateful to have the best singer as a wife or the man that knows the bible from Genesis to Revelations. The most important thing is submitting and humbling yourself to God’s will. His will is perfect, our flesh is not.

Gratitude brings God into your relationship.

When you reverence God and express your love and appreciation for bringing both of you together. For bringing someone who is an equal whole as you. This will bring him into your relationship and marriage. As you are telling God, this is not by my power but, by yours. 

This also works when looking back at failed relationships as you can also praise God for bringing you out of such. Because those were probably used to teach us a lesson about ourselves, about God and about relationships. 

We should learn by our past and look at what went wrong, especially on our side. And through deep reflection and seeking God’s help, we enable ourselves to become a better version for our future spouse. 

The process alone is worth us praising God. As a loving father he will correct his children so they can become a better version of themselves. God has to bring all the wrong ones first and break our hearts in order for us to learn about him and ourselves. 

So when the right person comes by, we have more cause to praise God for loving us to help break and remould us for this person. 

He is the God of the Hills and the Valleys. 

Thank you for listening. I pray that your marital journey will glorify God and that his glory shall rest upon it in Jesus name. 

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